Am I being unreasonable?

So I never pictured myself as the mother of a girl, let alone one of the teenage variety. My partner has a daughter who is almost 15. She is gorgeous. I used to think gorgeous inside and out but now I'm not so sure. I know it is probably wrong of me to pass judgement but over the last 12 months she has changed into this creature that I'm not sure I want to be around or to be a role model for my boys. Yes, peer pressure, teenage girl insecurities, dysfunctional family issues etc etc. I understand all that. I was a teenage girl once too. Most nights she messages me on MSN. Once upon a time it was fun. It was my way of keeping in touch with her as I really felt we were quite close. Now the chat usually goes something like this

c:  heeeeeeeeeeeyyyyy
me: hey how you doing?
c: gooooooooddd aye, hbu (short for how about you)
me: all good
c: thats goooooood

Then I just can't be bothered. It's too hard. She won't visit us anymore. She doesn't call. Not even for her little brothers birthday this year. I pulled her up on it. She was all apologetic asking how she could make it up to us. I told her all she needs to do is call her dad occassionally. What makes me sad is she seems to have no interest in whats going on around her in the world, how people are suffering. Its all about her and whether this boy likes her this week and if her hair looks straight enough.

I know I'm the adult and should know better and that she is just finding her way in the world. I just wish her finding her way in the world included showing a skerrick of interest in whats going on and having compassion for others.

Maybe I should just sit down, shut up and buckle up for the bumpy ride of having a teenager in my life. Maybe my big boy will change too once he hits the same age. I really hope not. Its important to me that my boys know how very fortunate they are and to make the most of all they have.

Not sure where I was going with this post and it hasn't made me feel any better lol.

xx